How to fight mental battles and rebuild yourself ⚡️
How I'm rebuilding myself...
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How I’m rebuilding myself:
In everyone’s life there comes a point where you just don’t feel yourself anymore. You start overthinking everything.
Overthinking → Worrying → Anxiety → Not feeling oneself anymore. It’s a loop.
Your brain just shuts down. You are unable to work. You can’t focus. You feel alone. You feel the imposter syndrome hitting you at the worst time. You are constantly fighting multiple mental battles. You are at the lowest of your life.
I have something to tell you - You are not alone.
We all go through it at some point in our lives. It’s a phase.
You’d eventually fall in love with yourself again.
“Nothing is stronger than a small hope that doesn't give up” - Matt Haig
I’m currently rebuilding myself. I realised the world won’t stop just because I’m fighting my mental battles. Acceptance and Rebuilding is the only way out.
Here’s everything I’m doing to rebuild myself:
Before I share I want to tell you that if you are going through something like this, please take up therapy.
I’m an independent consultant working on my own schedule with extremely generous clients and partners. Shoutout to Nikunj & Kunal
I have spent so much time understanding and learning about myself. I’ve been working for so long to fight these exact battles. I have some amazing followers who support me every day on Twitter.
When I put out this question - “how would you rebuild yourself?” I got some amazing answers. My sister (who is a magnificent psychologist) replied with therapy.
I was able to take 10 days out of nowhere but you may not be able to do that. Talking to a professional can help you massively.
Alright! Enough therapy talks. Let’s talk about how I did it.
First thing I did - Acceptance 🙌
Accept the fact that you are fighting a battle. You can prolong the fight by distracting your brain by doing things you love. But sooner or later, you have to address it.
Now, what next.
Create a playlist 🚀
What you listen to is very important at the moment.
Most people go for slow music. Remember words are very influential. The words you repeat is what you become. Psychology has done lots of research on this.
Either go for “Whatever it takes” by Imagine Dragons or Vibe on a song where you don’t understand the lyrics Hashtag Appy Dhillon
Take a day off. The Comfort Day
I was reading The Comfort Book by Matt Haig and came across this page 👇
I said that’s it. I wanted to do some cooking. Mom’s not home (I think one of the reasons I’m feeling alone is mom not being home. Home just doesn’t feel home anymore)
But anyway, I wanted to do some active meditation and this is how my dad went ❤️
Every night I’ve been documenting my thoughts and my day. If I’m documenting my best then why not document the worst too.
Talk to people you love
I made a list of family, friends and people I feel comfortable with. What’s the point of being friends with someone when they can’t be there for you when you need them the most.
Since then I’ve been constantly texting and getting on calls with people from around the world.
This has been amazingly helpful.
We all feel we don’t have friends. But we do. We all got some amazing friends. Call them up.
Start gathering little wins.
I played cricket for my district. Cricket is a safe space for me.
There was a tournament going on and my Under-16 + Under-19 team was playing. This was the best opportunity for me.
Go back to the top of this newsletter. You can see the win on my smile.
Do things you love
Read your favourite book
Visit that coffee shop
Meet a friend ❤️
Make a list of things that make you happy 🙏
Go live on a farm
Watch a standup comedy
Buy a new book 📚
Get some sunlight
Be in the moment
Prioritize one thing at a time 🙌
Writing has played a very important role in rebuilding myself.
I wanted to stop using social media completely. No Twitter, No Instagram, No newsletter. But I was addressing a problem that does not exist.
The whole point of social media is to stay connected with people you love. Deleting the connection when you need it the most is a bad decision.
So I kept writing. I wrote tweets, shared pictures, posted little wins with captions, journaled every day, even writing this newsletter is therapy for me.
Now, may not be the right time to travel but travel is extremely healthy.
I don’t have to tell you how magical travel is.
If nothing works, then travel is the way out.
Rebuilding can be a hard process but in the end, it’s the hard days that you’ll remember.
Enjoy the process. Take it easy on yourself. You deserve all the love and happiness.
Fight the mental battles up front and address them as soon as you can.
The end goal is to fall in love with yourself again.
Take care of your mental health.
Remember, This too shall pass.
10 Interesting things for you 🙌
1. 2021 in science (Wikipedia)
2. One of the rare open conversations on why the world doesn’t need NFTs (Thread)
3. New research finds desiring money for “health reasons,” such as financial stability and self-integrated reasons (e.g. to feel a sense of pride or to be able to direct one’s own life vs spending money on impulse or for materialist reasons) increases happiness and well-being. (Blog)
4. Something from my Twitter👇
5. Interesting Human of the week:- This human gifted me a book collection. Huge shoutout to Anchal Batra
6. Picture of the week:-
7. Question of the week:- What do you do when you want to feel positive?
8. Meme of the week:- :)
9. Current read: Numbers Don’t Lie By Vaclav Smil
10. Quote of the week:
“The only way I know I'm alive is if things happen that I haven't planned.” —Marc Maron
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"There's no money in poetry, but then there's no poetry in money, either." - Robert Graves
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"In three words, I can sum up everything I've learned about life: it goes on." - Robert Frost
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