Why do we have kids?
Here's my research on this question...
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Why do we have kids?
A couple of weeks ago, I fell in love with a human brain and we had lots of conversations on this particular topic.
I tried to answer her question on why do we have kids. I started doing some research. Went back to a few books… you know started my nerd stuff.
Last week, Raj asked this question and it hit me. This is something I’ve been thinking about for a couple of weeks now. I should chip in my perspective.
Here’s my perspective👇
Alright. For about 1,500 years - Agricultural Era, Children were economic assets. The more family members on the farm the better it is.
Then came the industrial revolution.
Machines took over jobs. Children were no longer an asset. Marriage got delayed. People started moving out to bigger cities. More freedom.
City life discouraged marriage.
That leads to us now.
Why do we have children?
Legacy is a made-up concept. Men reproduce because they are obliged to provide. Men can't produce well without a purpose. A man with purpose almost always produce in excess.
What will he do of that extra asset? Pass it on.
What about women?
Why do they accept having kids?
Why should they go through so much pain?
Well... they never actually got an opportunity to have a word on this.
My granddad saw my grandma on the night after their wedding. My mom was married to dad when she was 17.
Times are changing now.
Women are moving out. Making their own money. Becoming independent. First-generation drivers. Finally going away from stereotypes. Taking their own decisions. Breaking chains.
The reasons behind a man having a child didn't change much even after all these years:
- Pass on the assets.
- Have a purpose.
- Don't want to be the one who breaks traditions.
There is an amazing blog written by Paul Graham on Kids
The reasons behind a woman having a child:-
I'm not sure, to be honest. It's their decision now. I'm still trying to connect with more women who can share their perspectives on this. (If you are a woman reading this, I’d love to connect with you) DM me or reply to this mail.
“A mother is a son’s, first true love.
A son, especially that first one, is a mother’s last true love” - Denzel Washington
But I want to share a few things.
I recently watched this video
I came up with a few very interesting questions:
- Why should a woman work so hard in their mid-30s?
- Most of their peers have left to start a family?
- Is it worth making that extra $60k a month especially when the family is a two-income family?
- Why am I doing this?
And then the woman think… Well, there is more to life than this. (Watch the video to understand the context)
This is when they leave that highly-paid job with extreme overworking hours and high-power. They end up taking a simple 9-5 with more hours to run a family.
That leads to two questions
1. Everyone keeps asking
“Why aren't there more women in positions of power?”
WRONG QUESTION
The right question is “Why are there any men at all who want those positions of power?”
2. Women spend more than a year, going through so much pain, leaving their jobs, their careers, so that they can give birth to their child.
But what if?
What if, we have Synthetic wombs?
Again this will raise lots of questions and combined decisions. But maybe we should give it a thought.
Cause this will eventually reduce inequality and so many problems in society.
Conclusion
I don’t think I’ll ever be able to find a proper answer to this question. But the pursuit of an answer is an amazing process.
But the answer is something only time can tell.
What if Synthetic wombs work? Would men agree to it? But is that really their decision? Can Synthetic wombs get more women in the workspace and in the position of power and kill the inequality?
Like I said. Only time will tell.
If there is one thing I’m sure of is that 👇
“It takes a village to raise a child.”
Thank you for reading this.
This is still incomplete and the study goes on. I’d love to have more conversations on this and know your perspective. Feel free to DM on Twitter, IG or reply to this newsletter.
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